I came across this quote late one night while scrolling through my social media feed.
“If you allow people to make more withdrawals than deposits in your life, you will be out of balance and in the negative. Know when to close the account.”
I didn’t think much about it at the time but as I tried to fall asleep that night that quote kept running through my head like a broken record. My mind just wouldn’t let it go. I learned long ago that if something sticks with you there is a reason and it is usually worth exploring. Throughout the next day I continued to be distracted by those words. After a conversation with a friend, it came to me, my mother’s words, “Lesson #1 in life: know your worth.” That’s when I made the connection.
My parents raised me to be a strong, independent woman. A woman who celebrates her strengths but is not afraid to own up to her weaknesses. A woman who surrounds herself with good people and won’t let anyone take her for granted. A woman who stands tall in the face of adversity. A woman who knows her worth. The reason the words from that quote stuck with me is that I have not been living up to my mother’s words of late. I have allowed the takers in my life to make more withdrawals than deposits.
You know who I am talking about. We all have them in our lives. The givers and the takers. You don’t always know them when you see them – the takers – they are the proverbial wolf in sheep’s clothing. They only reach out when they need something but never just to check in to say hello. They lean on you when they are struggling but never lend an ear when you are having a moment. They take up all the air in the room and leave you feeling empty and exhausted. They never have time for you unless it serves them as well. Takers are tornados that spiral into our lives and leave chaos and destruction in its wake.
And then there are the givers. Oh, the givers! We all need them in our lives. They are our biggest cheerleaders. They are there when you need them, put their busy lives on hold and offer their time. They never ask you for anything but you give your heart and soul to them because you know they would do the same for you. Givers are the rainbows after the storm. They brighten your day and give you hope for tomorrow.
There is a message in the way a person treats you. You just need to listen. It is time to tighten my circle and remember my mother’s words. My account is now closed.